As Dr. Phil so intelligently put it, "there are no victims only volunteers". If people comment on themselves and their own lives they are always likely to paint a better picture of themselves. Every person on this planet have good and bad times and will sometimes be the victim of something but it is the way they handle that which determines what they are. People will never grow if hey do not go through difficulty and the best life lessons come during the hard times and experiences. Sadly some identify with the role as the victim as that can be used as an excuse of never moving forward or having a great life or doing things in general. We are never one thing and to claim that is somehow against the laws of nature.